Category: life lessons
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I Quietly Navigate a Loud World
After a long day, while traveling back home , one of the acquaintances with whom I shared the ride commented with disdain “ You are so quiet.” My response shocked them. Before getting to my response, let’s address the elephant in the room. The world has always seemed to celebrate people who are naturally outgoing — those who…
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Trusting after betrayal
its so hard to do so I have love being alone.. Here , I said it. let all the judgements pour in; a secret…..I don’t care now. I have accepted that I am not social and enjoy my me time far too much. It gives me enough time to unwind and recharge my batteries. Being alone…
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Embracing Change: Overcoming Fear at Life’s Crossroads
“If you are brave enough to say goodbye, then life will reward you with another hello”- Paulo Coelho. I have read many self-help books and understand what Paulo wants to convey. Then what is stopping me?I am at a crossroads, totally aware of the path I don’t want , yet I am still stuck on that…
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I had it wrong: Letting Go is Empowering
Just like the sand in hand, I was tightly holding on to my past for too long. For me, letting go of the past meant I was weak. It meant that if I forgave the people who hurt me, and what they did was right. I was not ready to accept that. How people treated…
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Lost, Found, Repeat..part 1
As the cold waves gently washed my feet and the warmth of the sun receded from my face, I could feel her leaving me. My eyes were closed, and a serene smile graced my face. The invisible threads that connected us snapped the instant she decided to leave. We both knew it was time, and…
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It’s not your fault, it’s Trauma Bond
It’s my fault, how could I let this happen to me?” This guilt kept me awake at night after my divorce. My mind, rather than providing peace after that ordeal, would often replay the painful moments from my marriage. At that stage, I would review the scene carefully — and like Dora’s crew I could spot all the red flags which were missed earlier. It made me…
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The day I processed it
A work related travel that came as a blessing! “ I can’t take it anymore , I want space”. Even though I was away from my ex- husband and his family, I could still feel the suffocation. This was the time when I made the decision to get separated from my so-called narcissist husband that time and live…
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Tackling Labels
The aftermath of setting boundaries! I was learning to love myself after my divorce. As a lesson I learnt , I knew I was shrinking myself for others. I had always put others needs first and ignored myself. Not anymore. I wanted to change this fact and recalibrate my brain to put myself first. At work or…
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The Body Remembers: Understanding Emotional Triggers from the Past
At the restaurant: When they delayed my order my first fast reaction was to get up and confront them. “ They cannot do this to me , oh no, not this time” , is what I kept telling myself. I called the manager and was all set to give him a piece of my mind. The manager came to me…
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The first relationship I healed after my trauma
“Maybe she doesn’t have the skills to attract a boy”, these were the words jokingly expressed by my mother to my sister about me. I was in another room when I overheard them discussing my life and marriage. It was an everyday topic at home since my mother wanted me to get married right after…
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Dark days
-short poem for those who fail to see the light in beginning I went to a place so dark,No thought or word would embark,Lost all hopes and cried a lot,Despair and pain was all I got,Forgot myself, soon hatred spread;My life, I could see, hung on a thread,Before it snapped, I held it tight;Knew I…
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When Will My Life Be Normal? The Hidden pressure of Chasing Society’s Timeline
When would my life be normal? I am so fed up with my son’s behaviour. My friend was venting about her son. She was upset because he would never do his homework on time and always needed someone to remind him about his tasks. More than his behaviour and how it affected her, what drew my focus was her question. What really came as…