Category: healing after divorce
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Lost, Found, Repeat..part 1
As the cold waves gently washed my feet and the warmth of the sun receded from my face, I could feel her leaving me. My eyes were closed, and a serene smile graced my face. The invisible threads that connected us snapped the instant she decided to leave. We both knew it was time, and…
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It’s not your fault, it’s Trauma Bond
It’s my fault, how could I let this happen to me?” This guilt kept me awake at night after my divorce. My mind, rather than providing peace after that ordeal, would often replay the painful moments from my marriage. At that stage, I would review the scene carefully — and like Dora’s crew I could spot all the red flags which were missed earlier. It made me…
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The day I processed it
A work related travel that came as a blessing! “ I can’t take it anymore , I want space”. Even though I was away from my ex- husband and his family, I could still feel the suffocation. This was the time when I made the decision to get separated from my so-called narcissist husband that time and live…
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The Body Remembers: Understanding Emotional Triggers from the Past
At the restaurant: When they delayed my order my first fast reaction was to get up and confront them. “ They cannot do this to me , oh no, not this time” , is what I kept telling myself. I called the manager and was all set to give him a piece of my mind. The manager came to me…
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The first relationship I healed after my trauma
“Maybe she doesn’t have the skills to attract a boy”, these were the words jokingly expressed by my mother to my sister about me. I was in another room when I overheard them discussing my life and marriage. It was an everyday topic at home since my mother wanted me to get married right after…
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Should I Tell People About My Divorce? Protecting Your Peace From Unsolicited Advice
handling unsolicited advice on divorce