Tag: boundaries
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The Missing Lesson: Learning to Express Ourselves
breaking the old belief system Right from the moment we are born, the people around us spend all their energy and time to teach you everything they know. Parents teach their kids to walk, eat, talk, read , write etc. They make sure that their kid is ready for the big world out there. Once…
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Lost, Found, Repeat..part 1
As the cold waves gently washed my feet and the warmth of the sun receded from my face, I could feel her leaving me. My eyes were closed, and a serene smile graced my face. The invisible threads that connected us snapped the instant she decided to leave. We both knew it was time, and…
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It’s not your fault, it’s Trauma Bond
It’s my fault, how could I let this happen to me?” This guilt kept me awake at night after my divorce. My mind, rather than providing peace after that ordeal, would often replay the painful moments from my marriage. At that stage, I would review the scene carefully — and like Dora’s crew I could spot all the red flags which were missed earlier. It made me…
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Tackling Labels
The aftermath of setting boundaries! I was learning to love myself after my divorce. As a lesson I learnt , I knew I was shrinking myself for others. I had always put others needs first and ignored myself. Not anymore. I wanted to change this fact and recalibrate my brain to put myself first. At work or…
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The first relationship I healed after my trauma
“Maybe she doesn’t have the skills to attract a boy”, these were the words jokingly expressed by my mother to my sister about me. I was in another room when I overheard them discussing my life and marriage. It was an everyday topic at home since my mother wanted me to get married right after…
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Should I Tell People About My Divorce? Protecting Your Peace From Unsolicited Advice
handling unsolicited advice on divorce