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Tackling Labels
The aftermath of setting boundaries! I was learning to love myself after my divorce. As a lesson I learnt , I knew I was shrinking myself for others. I had always put others needs first and ignored myself. Not anymore. I wanted to change this fact and recalibrate my brain to put myself first. At work or…
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The Body Remembers: Understanding Emotional Triggers from the Past
At the restaurant: When they delayed my order my first fast reaction was to get up and confront them. “ They cannot do this to me , oh no, not this time” , is what I kept telling myself. I called the manager and was all set to give him a piece of my mind. The manager came to me…
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My Mom Wants Me to Remarry After Divorce, But I Need Time — to Heal
“Maybe she doesn’t have the skills to attract a boy”, these were the words jokingly expressed by my mother to my sister about me. I was in another room when I overheard them discussing my life and marriage. It was an everyday topic at home since my mother wanted me to get married right after…
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Dark days
-short poem for those who fail to see the light in beginning I went to a place so dark,No thought or word would embark,Lost all hopes and cried a lot,Despair and pain was all I got,Forgot myself, soon hatred spread;My life, I could see, hung on a thread,Before it snapped, I held it tight;Knew I…
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When Will My Life Be Normal? The Hidden pressure of Chasing Society’s Timeline
When would my life be normal? I am so fed up with my son’s behaviour. My friend was venting about her son. She was upset because he would never do his homework on time and always needed someone to remind him about his tasks. More than his behaviour and how it affected her, what drew my focus was her question. What really came as…
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Should I Tell People About My Divorce? Protecting Your Peace From Unsolicited Advice
handling unsolicited advice on divorce
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The day after women’s day: when celebration ends and expectations return
It’s already 6 am and I can hear the hustle bustle of women in the kitchen on a Monday morning from neighbouring houses and mine. The so-called break on women’s day was over and women resumed their sacrosanct duty in the house. Surprisingly, these roles were replaced by their male counterparts on women’s day where they…
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The guides outside my window: what nature taught me about dealing with life’s challenges
It was an onset of a thunderstorm. Strong winds gushed through the windows and filled the floor with dust and dry leaves. I was frustrated to see the mess in my room caused by the weather and jolted towards the windows and door to shut it . That’s when I saw them. The grove of tall…